grief

Leroy, the Maltipoo (Maltese/Poodle Mix), (part 5)

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“Leroy becomes even more affectionate when we are upset.

Usually, he gives affection on his terms, but when he senses a change in our mood or behavior he is very responsive.

He worries about us.

He adds to the happiness in our house.

It’s full of love.

No matter what is going on, I want to come home and see him.”

Leroy, the Maltipoo (Maltese/Poodle Mix), (part 4)

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“We’ve had a lot of losses.

Their have been deaths in our families, and friends, too.

Leroy has been there for us.

He gives us snuggles and love and I really believe he knows when we are sad or sick.

He instantly calms down and curls up on our lap or chest.”

Kai, the Three Legged Maltese/Chinese Crested Mix, Rescue (part 1)

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“My late husband and I had a cat and the cat was his beloved cat.

We had agreed when the cat passed away, we would get a dog.

My husband died three years ago and the cat died last summer.

I went online in late June looking for a rescue dog.

I wanted an adult poodle.”

 

Ellie (short for elephant), the French Bulldog that is an entertaining clown, and great comfort (part 5)

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“Time is malleable in your head but seeing something tangible, like the growth and aging of a dog helps to serve as a point of reference.

Sometimes my sister’s passing feels like yesterday, and other times it seems like a long time ago.

Ellie helps me focus on the time at hand.

She is pretty much my dog, so she is my job.

I would recommend people who are going through something emotional, like a drastic change in their life to get a dog.”

Ellie (short for elephant), the French Bulldog that is an entertaining clown, and great comfort (part 4)

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“Ellie has created new thoughts.

While I am sad about my sister, it’s also okay to be happy about having a puppy.

I want to be there for Ellie.

She depends on me, and that helps put things in perspective.

Watching her live in the moment with no past or future has been helpful.

Watching her grow has also been valuable because I realize how much time has gone by since my sister’s accident.”

Ellie (short for elephant), the French Bulldog that is an entertaining clown, and great comfort (part 3)

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“I pretty much knew at that moment that I wanted her.

That was in August and I picked her up a month later.

Ellie has been great for my parents and me.

It’s a new life in our house.

I think it’s good to keep busy when you are grieving.

Before I got Ellie, I was just alone, thinking about my sister all the time.

Ellie is a responsibility so she has helped me get out of my house physically, as well as my head emotionally.”

Ellie (short for elephant), the French Bulldog that is an entertaining clown, and great comfort (part 2)

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“One of my friends researched French Bulldog breeders online and found one up in the Bronx in an area called, Country Club, near the water.

My friend, my sister’s boyfriend and I went to the breeder’s house and she had two left in  a litter up for adoption.

There was a little cream puppy and a little blue puppy.

The blue ones can go for up to $15,000, so I didn’t think she was in my price range and I didn’t ask about her.

After hearing my personal story (because I had to fill out a form explaining why I wanted a Frenchie on her website before even being eligible for one of her pups), she offered to sell me the Ellie, for the price of the cream puppy.”

Ellie (short for elephant), the French Bulldog that is an entertaining clown, and great comfort (part 1)

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“I’d been wanting a Frenchie for a few years.

They are like clowns; they have funny temperaments.

I was a college student so I couldn’t afford to get a dog, and I didn’t have the time to care for one either.

I graduated from college last May and then a few weeks after that, my sister died in a car accident.

She was 20 years old.

My parents thought it was time for me to get a dog.

I wasn’t working yet, so I had a lot of free time.”